My Best Polyamory And Relationship Writings
I’ve written hundreds of essays on polyamory; what follows is a list of my writings that people reference the most often – I think if you read ’em all, you’ll get a pretty good idea of how I think a healthy polyamorous relationship should be run.
(Which is not to say that I’m always capable of maintaining a healthy polyamorous relationship; I try, and try mightily, but my ideals are always far better than my execution. And in many cases, I’ve written these essays because I screwed up and wanted to place a big “DO NOT DO THIS” sign so other people might stay away. Regardless, there’s wisdom here, however earned.)
If you think I’ve missed an essay, feel free to leave it in the comments. As it is, there’s four sections:
- For The Newly Polyamorous
- Crappy Poly Patterns
- Advanced Poly Techniques
- Dating The Mentally Ill.
Enjoy!
Resources For Poly Newbies: Don’t Make These Common Mistakes!
- Seven Realities Guys Should Know Before They Open Up Their Relationship.
- Be Brutally Polyamorous.
- “Don’t You Get Insecure In Polyamorous Relationships?”
- “How Do I Get Past My Jealousy?”
- The Addiction Of Labels: A Warning For The Newly Polyamorous
- Why Bisexual Women Aren’t Replying To Your Couples Ad: Some Tips
- On STIs: Words I Didn’t Know I Needed.
Crappy Poly Patterns To Watch Out For.
- All Women And Never Men: A Rant On A Polyamory I Dislike.
- Why The Fuck Should Anyone Treat A Secondary Well?
- I Never Said “No.”
Advanced Polyamorous Relationship Techniques, Which, Unsurprisingly, Have A Lot Of Overlap With Advanced Monogamous Relationship Techniques
- Your Second Love Language Is Always Scripted.
- Fuck Your Jealousy. Try Mine.
- Why “Compersion” Should Not Be The Base Value Of Polyamory.
- You Don’t Have To Break Up With Them: One Of The Hardest Decisions In Polyamory.
- I’m Married To Her, But I’m Not Her Primary.
- Holding Space: A Vital Poly Skill.