My Best Polyamory And Relationship Writings

I’ve written hundreds of essays on polyamory; what follows is a list of my writings that people reference the most often – I think if you read ’em all, you’ll get a pretty good idea of how I think a healthy polyamorous relationship should be run.

(Which is not to say that I’m always capable of maintaining a healthy polyamorous relationship; I try, and try mightily, but my ideals are always far better than my execution. And in many cases, I’ve written these essays because I screwed up and wanted to place a big “DO NOT DO THIS” sign so other people might stay away. Regardless, there’s wisdom here, however earned.)

If you think I’ve missed an essay, feel free to leave it in the comments. As it is, there’s four sections:

  • For The Newly Polyamorous
  • Crappy Poly Patterns
  • Advanced Poly Techniques
  • Dating The Mentally Ill.


Resources For Poly Newbies: Don’t Make These Common Mistakes!

Crappy Poly Patterns To Watch Out For.

Advanced Polyamorous Relationship Techniques, Which, Unsurprisingly, Have A Lot Of Overlap With Advanced Monogamous Relationship Techniques

Dating The Mentally Ill.