My Class Notes From The Jealousy Class I Teach, And Also My Breakups Class
After I presented at Kinky Kollege a weekend ago, I had some people asking for my class notes on my presentations. I’m a little leery on that, because my notes are sketchy – they’re not detailed notes, more like waypoints to remind me to hit all the topics I wanted to cover.
However, a lot of these cryptic class notes are referencing essays I’ve written in the past – and so I went through and linked to those essays, so you can read more in-depth if you’d like. This isn’t quite the in-depth seminar experience I give when I’m yammering before a crowd – but if you’re looking for a cluster of Ferrett-thoughts on a topic, well, here they are.
Jealousy Is Not A Crime: Troubleshooting Broken Polyamory
If you’re dating multiple people, bumps will occur, sure as death and taxes. The question is, how do you figure out what’s wrong… and how do you repair the faults so that you emerge stronger and saner? Kinktastic writer Ferrett Steinmetz will lead a discussion about how to fight fairly, how to be respectful to all the people in your poly web, and tout the merits of a solid set of dealbreakers.
You Don’t Perform Surgery With A Butter Knife: Holding Safe, Sane Breakups
One thing’s guaranteed in every poly community: eventually, you’re going to run into your exes. And as such, learning how to break up responsibly becomes of paramount importance – you don’t have to adore them any more, but you should be able to at least function in the same spaces. So how do you call it off with a minimum of drama, even when people are trashing you in public?
As a reminder, in addition to these I also teach the following classes:
- How to Fight Fairly
- Ten Perilous Poly Patterns
- Wet With Words: Writing Erotica
- Burninating the Peasants: Fireplay 101
If you’d like me to teach at your event, feel free to contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org – I usually ask for travel/hotel fees, and a small stipend. But if my schedule’s free, I’m happy to come teach wherever I’m wanted.