Get In Touch

Want to contact me?

  • My email is  I love email.  I like people.  No, go ahead, email me, I dare you.
  • I’m on Twitter as @ferretthimself.
  • I’m on Google+ as Ferrett Steinmetz.
  • I’m also on Facebook – but Facebook’s my “private” social network, where I don’t friend you unless I know you.  It’s nothing personal – but man, I hate Facebook enough, don’t try to make me go there more often!  (And if you ever email me via Facebook, you might as well have tossed your email into a dark and stormy sea from which no mail e’er returns.)

If you have any questions about buying rights to my books, feel free to contact my agent Evan Gregory at the Ethan Ellenberg Literary Agency.




  1. Lewanna
    Sep 5, 2011

    I have been reading your blatherings (as you put them) for a very long time now. I have always enjoyed them.. and there is one in particular that you wrote that I think of often. It totally clicked to me and I smiled to myself.. although when I try to explain it to others.. especially the non-geek types.. they don’t see the humor. Anyway.. it was a post you had about how you were talking on the phone with Gini and during that call she was coming home to get something.. like a checkbook or something along that line. When she pulled into the driveway, you stopped your call to run out and give it to her along with a kiss. Then as she pulled away.. you continued your call… and the thought occured to you that you had just interupted yourself… with yourself. Its such a perfect metaphor for our generation and where it’s going. Thanks for sharing that. You rock.

  2. Stef (Soapwench)
    Aug 21, 2012

    Even though there are some awesome bloggers out there, you’re one of the only ones that I still consistently make time to read. I’ve been reading you for years.

    Thank you for continuing to blog and write. Your writing almost always stops my thinking mid-stream and pours it out into a pool to find new and different pathways. I’m grateful.

  3. Veronica
    Oct 16, 2012

    Just wanted to say a quick thank you for that article titled “Can I Buy You a Coffee”. I’m often a victim of street harassment and I don’t think most people (okay, i’m just going to say it – men in particular) don’t understand how frustrating it can be when you receive this kind of attention everywhere you go, especially when you’re in the middle of something and a stranger demands your attention. I really appreciate you taking the few minutes to even recognize that struggle, and the article was well written. Thanks!

  4. Brenda
    Oct 24, 2012

    I would love to follow you on my yahoo rss feed, but can’t figure out how to do it. Do you have an RSS feed URL I can paste into my RSS reader?

  5. J Beadle
    Oct 31, 2012

    I just found your blog and think you are a good writer. I wanted to do something like this a few years ago myself, but I guess my bs job got in the way. Keep it up, you’re inspiring. Sincerely..

  6. lovesquirrel
    Dec 2, 2012

    I was going to text you this, but then I decided that you as a public figure semi-expert on poly might like the opportunity to answer this question in a public forum, where more than just me could benefit from the answer. I’m trying to date this guy. He’s super shiny, he’s a dom, …I like him. But every single time we try to set something up, his partner suddenly “doesn’t feel well.” or has to “get out of the house” for a while. Now, in fairness, she is 7 months pregnant, but I”m really starting to suspect that she is pleading her belly to keep him from dating somebody local. What do you think, and how should I proceed, oh Guru?

  7. sarah
    Jan 9, 2013

    Hi there i came across your writing about Dread in a relationship. i know that is not the correct title but my mind went blank when i tried to think of it.I do however enjoy reading your writing and would like to keep on reading from this page you put a link to.Do i subscribe to it or how does it work? I don’t have a website so can not provide one. (obviously lol) I hope to hear from you soon and will bookmark this page. i look forward to reading more….. take care

  8. Kurt Steinmetz
    Aug 19, 2013

    Hello another lucky Steinmetz

  9. Louisa Leontiades
    Jan 30, 2015

    Thanks for the never giving up on writing post. It’s what I needed to read right now. Turns out publishing (as well as so many other things) is not binary!

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